A young man and woman in a relationship came to a man of God for counselling. They claimed that they were both virgins and sexually pure. Sadly, they revealed that they have had all kinds of sexual activities, including oral sex, without an intercourse. Surprised at their self-deception, the pastor took time to counsel them about sexual purity.

Friend, God still demands sexual purity from His people today (1 Thessalonians 4:3-4). The goal of sexual purity is not just to make heaven. It is to make us fit for destiny. Sexual sin stinks and also sinks. Sexual impurity brings reduction (Proverbs 31:3). Run away from any gospel that makes light of sexual purity. You cannot be playing games along this area and think you would fulfil destiny.

Sexual sin connotes any intentional thought, act, or activity (outside of marriage) that arouses you sexually, even if it does not end in intercourse. That you accidently saw a sexual image is not a sin, but it becomes a sin if you now intentionally look again. David’s first (accidental) look on Uriah’s wife was not a sin. It was the second look, and what came after that was the sin (2 Samuel 11:1-4).

Learn to plead the blood of Jesus upon your heart and mind anytime you stumble over such sexual images accidentally. Hugging is not a sin, but it becomes a sin if you do it to the point that it arouses you sexually during or after the hug (Proverbs 6:27). Take care of the gates that lead to your heart and mind (Proverbs 4:23). Be careful of what you see or hear and its impact on your mind and purity (Psalms 119:9-11).

You need to understand how to manage the dynamics of male-female relationships (Genesis 1:27). Don’t forget that the person (of the opposite sex) that you spend most of your time with is the one you are likely to fall into sexual sin with. You are likely to fall for such a person, not because you want to, but because you don’t know how not to.

As a man, you are more likely to fall for a lady who makes life easy or comfortable for you. A typical example of this is a male boss and a female secretary. Singles, the idea of having a prayer partner of the opposite sex must be done with caution. You are going to be close to the person you pray to, pray for, pray with, and pray about. Don’t confuse emotional attachment for divine leading (Romans 8:14). Selah!

‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria