A dear man of God once shared about his choice of life partner. He met a lady on campus that he felt was God’s will for him. But he wanted a lady who could travel around the world with him doing ministry, but this lady did not look like one. Years after, when he was on board a flight for a preaching engagement, he met this same lady on the plane, also travelling for a ministration. He was taken aback to when God led him to her.
Friend, your desire, and God’s will can co-exist. Stop seeing God as one who likes bursting your bubbles. Stop seeing God as someone who does not like what you like or just wants you to be unnecessarily unhappy (Luke 15:29-31). Some preachers make people feel as if God’s will would usually be something people would not like. If it is what they like, it is likely not God’s will. This is not true (Psalms 37:4).
Especially in the area of marriage, the reason some people do not want to ask God for direction is because of the fear of God giving them who they won’t like (Proverbs 18:22, Matthew 7:11). They think that they are better off not seeking God’s counsel. God cares about what you care about (1 Peter 5:7). He likes to see you smile. He loves to see you serve Him joyfully, not grudgingly (Psalms 100:2).
Choosing God’s will does not have to automatically mean choosing to suffer. In the kingdom, we don’t suffer. We only go through process (Psalms 66:10-12). The goal is to make us better, not bitter. Our processes with God would vary from person to person. It would also be determined by the uniqueness of our purposes and destiny (2 Corinthians 10:12).
God did not ask us to choose His kingdom and forfeit all other things. That is what most people think. He says we should seek FIRST His kingdom and all other things shall be added, not forgone (Matthew 6:33). What God is emphasising here is priority, not option. God’s will and your desire can co-exist. You can marry a very beautiful lady and still do ministry. You can be born again and still have (godly) fun.
You can get to the top of your career and still serve God’s purpose (Daniel 6:1-3). You can travel around the world and still be relevant to God. It is not about choosing one and forgoing the other. It is about prioritising God’s will above all else while expecting God to be faithful to add our desires as He has promised (Psalms 35:27). If God is calling you to step into higher things of your destiny, don’t hesitate. God’s will can co-exist with your desires. Amen!
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria