The MD/CEO of the company had been admiring this junior staff for a while. But he did not tell him. He noticed the peace and serenity around him and his family. He also saw the focus and consistency. One day, he sat him down and confessed; “I have admired you and your marriage for some time now. Can you tell me the secret?” The staff was surprised to hear this. We all need to know the portrait of a blessed marriage.
Friend, you need to know the portrait of a blessed marriage (Psalms 1:1-3). Most times, our metrics for measuring success and blessing are not right. What we call success before men can be total failure before God, and what we call blessing may also be an abomination before Him (Luke 16:15). If you don’t know how to judge a successful marriage, you would put yourself under unnecessary pressure.
A marriage is blessed and successful when it fulfils the purpose of God (Genesis 2:15, 18). Every marriage has a purpose intended by God. When a couple or family aligns with that purpose, they are successful as far as God is concerned. Aquilla and Priscilla may not look flamboyant, but their marriage was solid as far as divine purpose is concerned (Acts 18:24-28).
You can acquire whatever you like, you can do whatever you want to do, and live where you desire, but if none of these contribute to God’s purpose for your marriage and family, it is nothing but a waste of time and resources (Ecclesiastes 12:8-14). A successful marriage is not built around things. It is built around God and His purpose. It is a marriage that is in alignment with divine order.
A blessed marriage is a peaceful marriage. God designed marriage to be a haven of rest and refreshing (Proverbs 31:12). It is a place where you can retire after a hectic day and be refreshed enough to do life again the next day. Not too many people can boast of this in their marriage (Proverbs 25:24). If you have peace in your home, you need to treasure it. Protect your marital peace above all else. The devil is not happy with it.
A blessed marriage is a growing marriage. The blessing is not only about where you are. It is also about where you are going. Like Abraham and Sarah, learn to measure your marriage by growth, not by gold (Isaiah 51:1-2). It is better to be down and going up than to be up and coming down. Singles, marry direction, not position. Marry progress, not status. May your marriage be truly blessed (Psalms 128:1-6). Amen.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria