I once heard the story of two young trees, which grew side by side in a forest. One stood alone and was bent by every wind. The other grew beside a mature oak that shielded it and guided its branches upward. Years later, the first tree was twisted and weak while the second stood tall and bore fruit. This is how fathering shapes destiny.
Friend, God wants you to be a son, not an orphan. Life and destiny are like uncharted territory. Without a father or mentor, you will waste years repeating mistakes others already paid for. A father gives perspective and points out traps before you fall into them (Proverbs 4:11). Destiny is not trial and error. It is transfer through the right relationships (Philippians 4:9).
A father tells you who you are before the world tries to tell you who you are not (Matthew 16:18). Elijah fathered Elisha, and Elisha received a double portion because he was under the right covering (2 Kings 2:9-10). Without that identity, you will chase approval and settle for less than God’s plan.
David had Samuel’s covering, and even when Saul hunted him, he did not touch the anointed (1 Samuel 24:5-6). A mentor sees blind spots you cannot see and corrects you in private so you don’t get exposed in public. That’s spiritual health (1 Corinthians 4:15). Without it, pride and isolation can cut short your destiny before you arrive.
There are things that will take you 20 years to figure out that a father can show you in 20 minutes (Matthew 13:16-17). Paul fathered Timothy, and Timothy stepped into ministry with accuracy and authority (1 Timothy 1:2). The gap between potential and manifestation is often a father. God often wraps your next level in a person.
Success is what you achieve for yourself. Legacy is what survives after you. Moses fathered Joshua, and Joshua carried Israel into the Promised Land (Deuteronomy 34:9). If your life ends with you, it is incomplete. Fathering ensures that what God placed in you multiplies through others (2 Timothy 2:1-3).
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria