A young man walked up to a counsellor with these words, “When will God come through for me?” He replied, “If she showed up today, what would she be joining?” He said, “I have a job.” The counsellor replied, “I didn’t ask about your income. I asked about your life, your discipline, and your walk with God.”
Friend, are you ready for marriage or just tired of being single (Proverbs 24:27)? The altar won’t magically make you a husband or a wife. The private habits you are building right now will. If you can’t control your anger single, you won’t control it married. If you can’t steward money now, marriage just multiplies the debt (Luke 16:10).
Your single season is more of a workshop than just a waiting room (Ecclesiastes 3:1). This is where God strips pride, heals old wounds, and kills excuses you have coddled for years. Are you letting Him finish the work, or are you just looking for someone to distract you from the process? Are you truly growing (1 Corinthians 13:11)?
You either prepare now or you repair later (Luke 14:28). Learn to apologize quickly, listen deeply, serve without applause, and stay faithful when it’s boring. Marriage won’t complete you — it will expose what you refused to deal with in this season (Galatians 6:9).
You need to locate the right community (Proverbs 13:20). If your closest circle celebrates compromise, bitterness, and laziness, you are not preparing for marriage. Submit to mentors who love you enough to tell you the truth. Let godly friends confront your blind spots (Proverbs 27:17).
Some people are begging God for a spouse while refusing to become one themselves (Galatians 6:7). Others are quietly, daily becoming the answer to someone else’s prayer. Position yourself well. Do the work. Heal, grow, obey. Then you won’t have to chase. You will be ready when you are found (Ruth 4:13).
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria