As typical of most children, my daughters often like to go through me when they want something and have been denied by their mum. When I hear them say things like; “Dad, can we have some cake?” I’d respond; “What did your mum say about it?” Most times, they would just leave without saying a word. I know their mum must have said no. So I won’t say yes. I understand the power of unity in marriage. We are no longer two.
Friend, marriage brings oneness. The strength of a thriving marriage is in the unity between the spouses (Matthew 19:6). God’s plan is that husbands and wives are on the same page on critical or essential matters of their marriage and family. This may not come naturally or automatically for most couples, but it is something that must be intentionally worked on (Matthew 19:5).
The power of agreement is the secret of a strong and formidable union (Amos 3:3). If the devil cannot come in between you and your spouse, he cannot destroy your home. As in Adam, the devil always wants to explore and exploit gaps in homes in order to truncate God’s plan for such homes (Genesis 3:1-9). Don’t allow him. Be on guard always.
Unity in the home is not just a good counsel. It is a warfare strategy (Ecclesiastes 4:12). Many couples are fighting each other rather than teaming up to fight their common enemy. I always tell couples that the moment you see that you are not in unity with your spouse, a major battle or a defining opportunity is around the corner. The devil wants to ensure you are not prepared for it (1 Peter 3:7).
Unity is the secret of effective parenting (Psalms 128:1-6). Children know how to come in between spouses. We must be wise enough not to allow them. Don’t posture as the nice Dad in a way that they see their mum as a wicked or tough person, and vice versa. Spouses need to balance each other but not to counter each other. The goal is to raise godly seeds, not just to please your children (Malachi 2:15). You need to be firm, friendly, and united.
When couples are united, dreams are achieved cheaply. Prayers are answered speedily, and the home becomes a haven of peace and progress (Matthew 18:19, 1 Peter 3:7). Don’t sacrifice the destiny of your family on the altar of ego and selfishness. Make necessary adjustments to ensure unity in your home. Don’t leave God out of your marriage. Practise scriptures. Be united in righteousness. Stay on purpose. You are no more two! Amen!
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria