It’s now over two decades ago. I had just finished from high school awaiting admission into the university. It looked like a long wait, but it was a profitable one for me. I would closet myself for hours, studying, praying, and casting a vision for the future. Most of the things I’m doing today were received around that period. It was supposed to be a lonely season, but I chose not to be lonely.

Friend, loneliness is a choice. You can be alone and not be lonely. You can also be with the crowd and still be lonely. It is not a function of who is with you or not. It is a function of what is in you. It is a function of what is transpiring between you and God (Genesis 3:8). Singles, don’t get into a marital relationship because you are lonely.

Marital relationships do not cure loneliness. You must learn to be alone and not be lonely if you would be fulfilled being with people. The fulfilment that you are looking for is not in people. It is in purpose (Genesis 2:15). Purpose is the real cure for loneliness. Without purpose, you cannot profit from people (Galatians 1:15-24).

As a man of destiny, there would always be times that you would be alone (Genesis 32:24, Matthew 14:23). If you don’t learn this early, you would be missing something critical on your journey of destiny. God cannot achieve much in and with a man who has not learnt to be alone. True intimacy with God happens when we are alone. It is when God impregnates us with the vision of the future (Luke 1:35).

Perhaps the reason this season seems like a lonely one is because you have not caught a revelation of what God wants to achieve in your life and destiny via it. Like I did over two decades ago, you can get busy with God and destiny this season (Philippians 3:10-14). You can fellowship with great minds by studying relevant materials (Proverbs 18:1). You can take this time to study and understand yourself. You can download divine blueprint for your future (Habakkuk 2:1-4).

The most important person you need in your life at this time is God (Psalms 42:1-2). If you have not learnt to be alone with God, you would be alone with the devil one day, and you might fall flat on your face. David missed it because he could not manage being alone (2 Samuel 11:1-5). He started fellowshipping with the wrong thing. He forgot that he must use the time to engage God so the devil won’t entangle him.

‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria