When God spoke to me about my wife, I was in part one in the university. I was not interested in getting into any relationship at that time, I was relatively young. My heart was focused on God and on my academics. I kept it in my heart. I informed my pastor back at home. I told my then fellowship president. Then, I waited for the appointed time, which was not going to be, until part four, second semester. That was when I was led to propose to my wife.

Friend, it is not enough to be led to who to marry, it is important that you do it right. I have always emphasized the need to not only focus on marrying the right person but on doing it right. Marriages succeed or fail to the extent that the players do it right. Listen, you can marry the will of God and still fail if you don’t factor in the other components of the will of God.

My father in the Lord taught us that there are at least seven components of the will of God. One of such components is timing. Timing is key to success in any endeavour, including marriage. There is a time for every purpose and a purpose for every time (Ecclesiastes 3:1). The fact that God told you about a lady does not mean that it is time. The time of revelation is not always the same as manifestation time.

You need to subject divine leading in marital relationship to time. The test of time is the ultimate test. Time is a clarifier; it clarifies your receiving. It also helps you to prepare for whatever God tells you. Timing will help you to put the right structures and processes in place. You would need to carry authority figures along. Destiny is personal but not private. Be careful of what you claim to have received that the right relationships in your life are not being carried along.

When you make up your mind to not only marry the right person but to do it right, it would help you to ensure that your decisions and steps are in alignment with the timing of God. There is a time to propose. There is a time to get married, and there is a time to take specific steps in the marriage. Once you miss the timing you might end up struggling or failing. When the right thing is done at the wrong time it would turn out wrong.

Timing is a destiny matter. One of your greatest prayers is the prayer for sensitivity to divine timing because; “…the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong…., but time and chance happen to them all” (Ecclesiastes 9:11). May you align with God’s timing for your relationship and marriage in Jesus name. Amen!

© ‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria