Years ago, a young man who was following me said something that really got at me. He said, “Sir, my marital life is in your hands; whatever you say, whoever you choose, I would go with.” My response to him reset his thinking; “you are not serious. Your marriage and destiny are in your hands, not mine. You need to take personal responsibility.”

Friend, you need to take personal responsibility for your outcome in life and destiny. One of the blessings of redemption is that we all have access to God, our Father. God has now become our Father (John 20:17, Ephesians 2:18). Don’t outsource your sonship (Romans 8:14). God does not have grand father. We are all sons of God with equal access (John 1:12).

While God makes provisions for ministry gifts to help our accuracy in matters of destiny, they are not to replace God in our lives. This is why, most times, the prophetic ministry and other ministry offices are to operate as confirmers, not replacements (Hebrews 2:3). Don’t live your life by someone else’s revelation and conviction (1 Kings 18:15, Acts 27:23-25).

You should see ministry gifts as leverage for your growth, not as excuse for your lack of growth. They are to temporarily make up for the lapses in your personal growth and knowledge of God. The problem comes when you are overly dependent on them. This is why some people remain babies longer than expected (1 Corinthians 3:1-4, 1 Peter 2:2, Hebrews 5:12-13).

Stop playing truant in the school of the Spirit. Stop going about looking for answers that should normally be supplied in your closet. This is why people fall victim of deception (2 Timothy 3:13-15). Asking someone to help you find out the will of God might look like an easy way out, but it won’t help you in the long run. The price you pay for growth and intimacy would help you to handle what you are asking.

“…for all shall know me, from the least to the greatest” (Hebrews 8:11). One of the imports of the move of the Holy Spirit in the last days is that each person would know God; we would all be prophetic (Numbers 11:29, Joel 2:28). The job of New Testament ministers is to introduce you to the Holy Spirit. Your pastor’s relationship with God should be a motivation for your growth, not a replacement. Don’t outsource your sonship!

© ‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria