I am always excited when I get to attend wedding programs, especially of the people in my network. But there was one I attended at a particular year that I felt different about. Actually, immediately I saw the groom, my heart sank. A subtle question popped up in my mind; “Why did this lady marry less?” Years after, my premonition proved true.
Friend, don’t marry less. There is a subtle strategy of the devil to make people marry less. If the devil cannot make you marry wrong, he would attempt to make you marry less. If he cannot stop you, he would attempt to slow you down. Whereas you are concerned about not marrying a bad person, an unbeliever, a weak or wicked person, the devil wants you to marry less than your destiny (Genesis 2:18-24).
Don’t marry less than your destiny. That someone is okay does not mean that he or she is okay for you. The fact that he is a Christian and attends church does not mean that he is fitted for your purpose and destiny (1 Peter 3:7). Don’t marry less. Don’t marry a Nabal before your David shows up (1 Samuel 25:25-39). Don’t marry someone out of pity or haste. Don’t let marriage open your eyes. Rather, let God open your eyes before marriage.
Marrying less is not just a function of the physical. It is not about here and now. It is about the future. We walk by faith and not by sight (2 Corinthians 5:7). It is God who knows the future. This is why you must allow Him to guide you. You must allow Him to show you who people are and what they would become in destiny (2 Corinthians 5:16). You cannot choose right without divine revelation.
You need to know your purpose before you meet your partner (Genesis 2:15, 18). People marry less when they marry someone who cannot handle the kind of purpose or assignment that God has given them. A God-given partner must be able to interpret your destiny and know where he or she would fit it. That’s who Abigail was to David (1 Samuel 25:28-30). You need that kind of wife or husband.
Don’t marry for today, marry for tomorrow. That you are struggling now does not mean that you will continue to struggle. Don’t choose a partner based on your struggles. Choose based on your vision (Habakkuk 2:3). Don’t just marry who is available. Marry based on your dream, desire, and destiny. Don’t marry based on your age or season. Marry based on your grace and destiny. Who you marry will determine, to a large extent, how you live and how you end (Isaiah 51:1-2). Don’t marry less.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria