There is this interesting story I heard sometime ago. A married man was seen wearing his wedding ring on the wrong finger. Someone tried to correct him. His response was epic; “Don’t worry, I intentionally wore the ring on the wrong finger because I married the wrong person.”
Friend, who you marry will ultimately determine what you become. The right marriage gets the best out of us, the wrong marriage does the opposite. The devil subtly wants to join you to the wrong person so as to truncate your destiny. Don’t let the social media redefine marriage for you; God’s original plan for marriage must be your guide (Genesis 2:18, Ecclesiastes 4:9).
Except you are not ordained to marry, “if you marry wrong, about 80 percent of your usefulness in life and destiny is gone.” What happens when someone marries a fool? Why do wise people marry fools? Why do fire brand brothers or sisters marry fire extinguishers? Why do sons of God marry daughters of Belial?
A lot of people marry wrong because of impatience. Listen, God’s best are still ahead of you, don’t make quick and uninformed choices. Let the revelation of divine purpose and timing guide you as you make a choice of who to marry.
Abigail’s problem was not divine revelation; it was probably impatience (1 Samuel 25:25-42). She married Nabal before David showed up! What about you? Are you going to wait for divine choice or you would hurriedly marry Satan’s alternative? Will you be guided by divine revelation or bow to pressure (Ecclesiastes 3:11, Isaiah 28:16)?
Don’t allow the devil, your flesh or people’s opinion to colour your perception. Be guided by divine wisdom and revelation (Isaiah 33:6). For engaged singles, it is never too late to get out of that wrong relationship. A broken courtship is better than a broken marriage. It is better to be single, hoping to be married, than to be married praying to be single.
For those who think they have married wrong, let God turn things around for you. Like Abigail, it does not matter who your spouse is at the moment, don’t play the fool. Don’t play the wayward. Don’t play the wicked. Continue to seek God. Pray for your spouse. Love him or her. Go for counsel and trust God to turn things around. God has not planned marriage to only be endured, He wants it to be enjoyed (Proverbs 5:18).
© ‘Demola Awoyele
Destiny Impact Church