We were having a family time recently when my younger daughter uttered this statement; “I know Daddy’s spiritual father.” We wondered why she came up with that statement, so we went on to ask who he is. Here was her response; “Daddy’s first spiritual father is God while the second spiritual father is Daddy Areogun.” Her level of thinking is instructive.

Friend, there are lessons on spiritual fathering that are worth paying attention to. Spiritual fathering is not just a denominational doctrine or some people’s philosophy of life and ministry. It is a biblical principle that shapes destinies and the purposes of God on earth (1 Corinthians 4:15). One of the gaps you should fill in your life this year is spiritual fathering and destiny training.

Why did my daughter know my spiritual father? Why does she even know that there’s something called spiritual fathering? It is what she had caught around me since her birth (Philippians 4:9). I don’t think she has any sermon notes on the subject, but I’m sure she has enough examples and evidence around my life and ministry. She had seen me talk about my spiritual father. My children have met him a number of times. They’ve heard him pray for me and the family. They’ve seen me listen to his teachings over and over again.

Do you know your spiritual father (1 Corinthians 11:1)? Do people around you know him with you (John 14:7)? Does your fiancĂ©/fiancĂ©e know who you are following? Who can your spouse report you to if need be? Who do you constantly talk about? Who has influenced and shaped your thinking, philosophy, and life’s journey? Who is that person who has accommodated your destiny in his calling and ministry (Galatians 4:19)?

Discipleship, mentorship, and fathering are a trio everyone needs to fulfil destiny. Although, the three are related but are distinct in their roles in our lives. While a discipler helps you to become like Jesus, a mentor helps you to succeed in specific areas of your life, and a father prepares and sensitizes you for destiny (Esther 4:14). The foundation for success and fulfilment is discipleship. You must become like Jesus, and someone has to help you with that (1 Corinthians 11:1).

Until you become like Jesus, every other thing you become is a waste (Philippians 3:10-14). Some people have gone ahead of you in specific areas of your life; you need such people (mentors) to show you the way and lead you on the path (Ecclesiastes 10:15). A spiritual father is ordained by God to guide you in fulfilling your destiny. His work is holistic and multifaceted. He helps you to grow in God and maintain balance in all areas of your life as you fulfil destiny (2 Timothy 1:5-7). Do you have a spiritual father?

‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria