Recently, I saw a man of God celebrating his wife on social media. That day, he said something I would never forget; “When nobody believed in me, you believed against the mockers and doubters. When there was nothing attractive about me, you saw into my future and decided to marry me.” As he went on and on to praise his wife, I was reminded of the need to marry direction, not position.

Friend, always remember that in life, direction is more important than position (1 Samuel 10:3). I have always taught people that the man who is down but going up is better than the man who is up, but coming down. Direction is more important than position. A lot of people marry position, not direction (Proverbs 31:29-31). They marry where the person is, not where the person is going.

It takes revelation and faith to choose direction above position (Isaiah 51:1-2). This is why marital success is for people with revelation and faith. Singles should pray that God will open their eyes to see into the future of their prospective spouse (1 Samuel 25:23-31). Not all that glitters is gold. Not all that is raw is trash. It takes discernment to see hidden treasures in a trash.

It takes faith to believe the best of your spouse (1 Peter 3:5-7). By faith, you call forth things that are not as though they were (Romans 4:17). We need husbands who would call forth the beauty and blessing in their wife rather than treating her like trash (Isaiah 65:8). We need wives who would continue to speak forth the destiny of their husband rather than raining curses and abuses on him.

You are not likely to succeed if your spouse does not believe in you and your future (Proverbs 31:12,28). Don’t be like that pastor’s wife who kept talking down on her husband each time he got home from church. She would say things like; “I don’t even know what people see in you listening to you every time. All those testimonies I hear people share in church are not real to me.” If you are married to that kind of person, you are gone.

We need to celebrate men and women who see us for where we are going, not just where we are (Numbers 10:29). They gave us a chance to succeed when others have written us off. As a husband, your wife, who stuck with you against all odds, needs to be appreciated. As a lady, pray that God will grant you a revelation of the future of your spouse and the faith to go all the way with him (Hebrews 10:35-39). Direction is more important than position.

‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria