When our marriage was young, I’d come home and switch the TV to news. Every time. I didn’t think much of it. But it was shutting down communication with my wife. She stopped sharing. I stopped listening. One day, the Holy Spirit nudged me: “Don’t change the channel. Sit with her.” I did. That night, we spent time talking.
Friend, your marriage won’t go further than your communication (Amos 3:3). But communication starts with God, not with your spouse. When both of you listen to God regularly, you start to understand each other better. Most marital issues are a result of a lack of alignment with God (Genesis 21:9-12).
The right words and heart matter (Ephesians 4:15). Truth without love wounds. Love without truth deceives. As couples, we’re called to be honest about our hopes, fears, and struggles. But always to build up, not break down. Angry words scatter unity. Gentle words heal years of distance (Proverbs 15:1).
Nobody stumbles into a purposeful marriage by accident (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). It is built when couples talk about what matters: faith, family, finances, the future. Regular, prayerful talk brings alignment. When Christ is in the conversation, He lines up your desires with His will (Matthew 18:19).
Couples who flow together aren’t perfect. They just know how to forgive (Ephesians 4:32). Hurt will come. If you leave it unspoken or unforgiven, it blocks communication like a clogged pipe. Great marriages are built through quick forgiveness and honest reconciliation (Colossians 3:13).
Your marriage is meant to reflect Christ and the Church (Ephesians 5:22-33). This is how God makes eternal truth practical for a watching world. Can people look at your relationship and get a clearer picture of Christ’s love? (Matthew 5:16). When couples communicate well, they become a living picture of God’s love.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria
