“Pastor, do you need to go through counselling too? After all, you are a pastor and have taken people through some of these things.” This was what we heard as we sat for counselling with her while preparing for our wedding. We went through the counselling, and it was very enriching for us.
Friend, you need to recognize the need for counselling, even if you are a counsellor. The teacher also needs to be taught, and the deliverer also needs deliverance. Especially in marriage, the need for counselling cannot be overemphasized. No matter who you are and what you know, don’t jettison counsels when necessary (Proverbs 11:14).
No matter how spiritual you are, there are some things God won’t tell you personally. He would tell you through someone else. Jethro was a voice of counsel to Moses (Exodus 18:17-23). Jeremiah had to go to the potter’s house to hear God’s word (Jeremiah 18:1-5). Paul needed to meet Ananias for clarity in ministry (Acts 9:6).
Counselling will open your eyes to things you never knew before. Counselling will reinforce what you already know and make the knowledge more personal. It’ll bring timely reminders of truths when you go through seasons in your relationship and marriage.
Don’t rush into marriage without proper counselling. Some things are better heard before marriage, not when you’re married. Dear married folks, postmarital counselling is as important as premarital counselling. Don’t be too proud to go for counselling. Put your ego aside.
Whereas there is the voice of counselling from the scriptures and the Holy Spirit, there is also the place of listening to God-sent men (2 Chronicles 26:5). May the Lord direct you to your teachers and counsellors as you fulfil your marital destiny in Jesus’ name (Isaiah 30:20-21). Amen!
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria