I once heard a story about a married man who was spotted wearing his wedding ring on the wrong finger. When someone tried to point out the mistake, he cleverly replied, “Don’t worry, I’m wearing it on the wrong finger because I married the wrong person.”
Friend, avoid the danger of a wrong marriage (1 Samuel 25:25). A wrong marriage happens either when you marry the wrong person or when you do marriage wrong. For some people, their problem is not the person they marry, but the way they do their marriage. It is their marriage process and principles (Proverbs 4:7).
Since a lot of “God said” marriages are already going wrong, some people have de-emphasized divine leading using failed or struggling marriages as excuses (Isaiah 48:17, 21). But I believe we don’t have to de-emphasize a truth to emphasize another truth. We should just maintain balance (Romans 12:11).
We need to balance divine leading with human responsibility (John 13:17). The fact that God led you into something does not mean that it would work. Divine leading plus human responsibility equals great success. Where do you need to take responsibility for your marriage today (1 Corinthians 15:10)? Are you doing it right?
When it comes to a successful marriage, you need to get it right, do it right, and get better (Proverbs 4:18, 14:12). But what if you got it wrong? You cannot improve on an error. This is why we need to honour God’s wisdom in providing guidance and leading for us in choosing a life partner (Proverbs 18:22).
Singles, let God lead you (Romans 8:14). It would strengthen your conviction and commitment. Not everyone who thought they married wrong actually married wrong. Some are just not doing marriage right. Embrace biblical wisdom, listen to godly counsel, be patient with your spouse, and pray fervently (Matthew 7:24-27). Your marriage will work. Amen.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria