When the young lady met her pastor to discuss her newfound love, he knew that something was not right somewhere, so he requested time to do his findings. It turned out that the supposed partner was a fraud. Just a few questions revealed his heart and intentions. His words and stories were not adding up. But why didn’t the lady discover this earlier? She had fallen in love.
Friend, you need to know how to stand in love. Love does not cause us to stumble (1 John 4:16-18). It actually causes us to stand strong and make progress in the will of God. You don’t have to fall in love. Most times, when people say they have fallen in love, they may mean that they have found someone with whom their heart connects and with whom they would get along in life, fulfilling their destiny (Amos 3:3).
Sadly, not many people know how to manage love and emotions when it comes to marital relationships or relationships in general (2 Samuel 13:1-4). They fall in love rather than stand in love. They allow their heart to lead them on a journey without their brain. They put their emotions forward rather than letting the voice of reasoning guide their choices and actions (Philippians 4:8).
Not everybody can handle the weight and burden of relationships and marriage. This is why the Bible sternly warns that we should not wake up love until it is time (SoS 2:7). That time speaks to God’s timing as far as His purpose for our lives is concerned. It also speaks to the time that we are mature enough to handle the demands and dynamics of love and relationships (Galatians 4:1-2).
As a Christian, you need to let God’s love (agape) rule your life and relationships (Philippians 1:9-11). When people say that love is blind, I know they are not talking about agape. We know that God is love and God is never blind. God has emotions, but His emotion does not rule Him. His purpose and wisdom do (1 John 4:8).
Let divine purpose and wisdom guide your relationships and marriage (Acts 26:19). Don’t court the devil. Don’t fall in love with someone who would lead you astray. Involve your spirit, heart, and brain in your marital journey (Proverbs 7:7). Submit to the right kingdom structures. Listen to the voice of wisdom and accountability in your life. Don’t fall in love. Stand in love.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria