A young man was inconsistent in his availability and commitment to the things of God as a single brother. All of a sudden, everything changed when he got married. He started becoming very committed. When I met the wife, I saw in her a lady whose heart was after God. Truly, marriage can either strengthen your commitment or slow you down.
Friend, two are better than one (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12). One of the ways you know if you married right and are doing marriage right is what happens to you after marriage. The right marriage will increase and multiply you while the wrong marriage will reduce you. Marriage mathematics is that one will chase a thousand, and two will chase ten thousand (Deuteronomy 32:30). That is multiplication.
You have never seen a man operate in his full potential and capacity until you see him in the right marriage (Genesis 2:18). This is why you must not joke with marrying right and doing marriage right. The right marriage will be strength in your areas of weakness. There, your spouse complements you. He or she fills your gaps and supplies what you lack (1 Peter 3:7).
Spouses must see themselves as God’s provision for the safety, stability, and success of each other. This is why you and your spouse must not both be partners in error (Acts 5:1-11). When one partners head is not correct, the other must think straight. Teaming up with your spouse to do evil or go against God’s will is not love. It is ignorance.
Part of the vow that couples should take at the juncture of marriage is a vow that they would do their best to see their partner succeed (Malachi 2:14-16). One woman told God in prayers that “God, if this man fails, hold me responsible.” That kind of woman will not rest until her husband breaks into his prophetic destiny. She would not rest in prayers, encouragement, support, etc.
What about you? What would you do to see your husband or wife break into his or her prophetic destiny (Proverbs 31:10-12)? Are you an encourager or a discourager to your spouse? Since that man or woman married you, what has he or she become? Has his or her commitment to God, church, and destiny increased or decreased? Do you keep quiet when you know your spouse is not doing well? Make up your mind to do marriage right.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria