On our way home from church recently, I noticed a middle-aged man walking home from their church with his wife and children. We often see this family when we are heading to or from church. I turned to my kids and said, “I admire how that man consistently leads his family to church. That’s what a real man looks like.” They got the point.
Friend, who are you at home? True manhood is not about fathering children or dominating a woman (1 Peter 3:7). It is about leadership — stepping up in the things that matter most, both in faith and in life. This is the standard God looks for in a man at home (1 Timothy 3:4-5).
Like Abraham, does God truly know you (Genesis 18:19)? God knows people differently. People often know you by your public image, but God knows you in private (1 Samuel 16:7). Who you are behind closed doors matters more to Him than who you appear to be in public.
Some men wear masks. They seem devout in church but are distant from God when no one is watching (2 Timothy 3:5). They are kind and respectful at work, yet harsh and careless at home. If you want to succeed in life, make your home your first priority (Galatians 6:7-9).
I brought this up with my children because I want them to understand the value of a godly husband (Proverbs 31:1-9). I also want them to know that my commitment to God and our family is not just because I’m a pastor. You don’t need to be a pastor or marry one to build a home centred on God (Acts 18:1-3).
To the young woman: stay grounded in your walk with God, and make godliness your priority when choosing a spouse (Psalm 128:1-5). Don’t marry for money, good looks, or even for a title. Look at his relationship with God (Luke 2:52). When a man gets that right, the rest of his life usually falls into place.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria