When counselling couples, I often ask: “Who’s the spender, and who’s the saver?” Usually, each partner leans one way or the other. One lady was stressed about her spouse’s spending habits – she was the opposite. I told her, “Relax, you balance each other out.” This applies beyond finances.
Friend, life will reward you for overcoming weaknesses, not just playing to strengths (Judges 16:4). Focus on strengths, but don’t neglect weaknesses. Your strengths drive success, but weaknesses determine long-term stability (1 Corinthians 9:27). Ignoring weaknesses can wreck progress.
The weaknesses you don’t tackle early on will trip you up later. If you don’t deal with lust as a youth, it would later catch up with you in marriage and destiny (Songs of Solomon 2:15). Wise people tackle weaknesses head-on, tapping into God’s grace and wisdom.
The devil targets weaknesses (Luke 22:31-32). Instead of ignoring them, work around them. If anger is a problem, get people in your life who would help you overcome it. It is unwise to only hang out with people who have the same struggles as you. It won’t help you in the long run (2 Samuel 13:1-15).
In marriage, God often pairs you with someone strong where you are weak. If you are both weak in the same area, something is wrong somewhere. Nabal married wisely; Ananias did not (1 Samuel 25:21-35, Acts 5:1-11). The right marriage would balance you up.
Know your strengths, but tackle your weaknesses (Psalm 119:9-11). Some need prayer, some discipline, and most need accountability. Set boundaries and build defences (Job 31:1). Remember, you will be rewarded for overcoming weaknesses, not just showcasing strengths.
‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria