I have had to keep back from sharing some things publicly because of the dusts it would raise. In fact, I spend a great deal of time reediting my daily posts to ensure that I give little or no room for confusion. I understand that being controversial is one of the ways to gather likes and comments, and be popular. I’m not out for a popularity contest, I’m on purpose and for purpose.

My motivation is to be a blessing; to supply understanding and clarity, not to bring confusion. I want to answer more questions in people’s heart than I create confusion. I want someone to say when we meet in time or eternity that, “your posts or ministry have been a blessing to me”, even if they don’t like or comment on social media.

Friend, if you have to say everything that comes to your mind, it is a sign that you are ignorant and/or immature. When Facebook asks you, “what’s on your mind?” Let discretion guide you as to what to say. Not everything is meant for public consumption. Some are for you and you only.

You don’t have to always express all your feelings. Not everyone should hear some things from you. That everyone shits does not mean that they are interested in hearing about your toilet sessions. Discretion is a major component of wisdom that not too many people have (Proverbs 2:11, 5:2).

“A fool utters all his mind: but a wise man keeps it in till afterwards” (Proverbs 29:11). You don’t always have to give a piece of your mind. Some people have lost their job doing that. Some are divorced now for lack of discretion. A lot have lost the trust of people that God brought to them because of this. Be swift to hear and slow to speak (James 1:9).

“Sometimes, silence can be very golden. Meekness is not weakness, it is strength under control. Your silence and caution can make more impact than your volume of words. Don’t ever forget that the internet never forgets. Words, they say, are like eggs, you cannot unpack it once it is let out. Be well guided. Be purposeful.

Don’t make a habit of always coming out, after sometime, to correct your theology; there are things you should not say until you know that you know. Don’t be carried away with the intoxicating power of knowledge. Don’t be puffed up (1 Corinthians 8:1). Take time to know. Take time to grow. Take time to show. Seek to be powerful with God, not just to be popular among men. Let God be able to trust you (Isaiah 42:1-4).

© ‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria