A young man came to my spiritual father to invite him for a program. He asked him; “Would you choose that I come preach for you or do you want a relationship with me?” His response revealed his priority; “I want you to preach for me.” He declined the invite. The young man valued what to get above the relationship.

Friend, one sign of maturity is knowing know what to value. When I see what you value I can tell your level or lack of wisdom. You need to value relationships over money if you would go far in life and fulfil destiny. Nothing fights relationship more than money. Money is at the root of every relationship issues, directly or indirectly (Genesis 13:1-11).

It is better to lose money and gain relationship than to want to gain money at the expense of relationship. Money will come and go but people would remain. Relationship would do for you what money cannot do (Luke 16:9). The goal of business is not to make money but to build relationships that you can leverage for destiny; money is only a byproduct of it.

You cannot get wisdom and money from the same source. If you prioritize getting money from a man of wisdom, you have automatically shut yourself off from the wisdom that person carries (Proverbs 3:13-18). But if you pursue the wisdom, you would get money at the end of the day, even if not directly from the person.

It is better to build a relationship with God based on who He is than to build a relationship with Him based on what He gives. Who God is is superior to what He gives. If you have the Giver you would have had what He gives. Why would you ask what to get from a God who is your shield and exceeding great reward (Genesis 15:1-6)? No gift can beat that!

I want you to do a relationship audit today and ask yourself; “What is my priority in this relationship?” Could it be that you have lost some destiny-molding relationships because of money or what to get? Are you currently trivializing an important relationship in your life because money is not coming out of it? Value relationships more than money. Never forget this!

© ‘Demola Awoyele
Lead Pastor,
Destiny Impact Church
Akure, Nigeria